I feel like I’m always apologizing on this blog. Maybe it’s the Canadian in me… maybe it’s that I’ve been afraid to get my hopes up. Recently my husband and I have been talking about dreams… about how we dream a LOT but never seem to get to the point of LIVING those dreams. There are reasons. Mainly financial ones. But there are also other things we’ve felt were responsibilities that, looking back now, did nothing but serve as an excuse to NOT live our dreams. Hindsight and all…
Today I want to tackle some of those reasons.
1. Kids. Well, no one can deny that a single guy or gal is going to have a far easier time making an international move than someone who has to consider the welfare of their children will. Now, as we are a homeschooling family, that isn’t as big an issue as it might be for those who would need to coordinate between school systems and the likes. But still. When the Bigs (now 20 & 18) were little, we had babies in tow – I think at one point we had a 12 year old, a 10 year old, a 3 year old and a newborn… NOT the ideal time to move countries, imho. Looking back though, I realise that it was an excuse we were telling ourselves to rationalize not being willing to take the plunge. Now we have our Bigs who will be heading off to college in the autumn, and the Littles are 11 & 9 – no more excuse there!
2. Parents. Five years ago we moved to be closer to my parents, who were unwell. Actually, my mom was more than unwell, and she passed away about a year after we moved. My dad is not a healthy man, but of late has refused contact with us. He found my concern for his ability to care properly for himself to be offensive. I am sorry for that, as all I ever did was out of love and care for him. My Hunny’s mom lives in the same town as us, but she’s a healthy woman… his dad lives a couple thousand kilometers away and definitely doesn’t require our help. No excuses there!
3. Cousins. This one really matters to me. It matters to me that my kids know who their cousins are… but at the same time, if we are honest, we rarely see them. They live in another town 45 mins away and are far too busy in their lives to see them more than a few times a year. And of course there is always Skype to keep in touch. No excuses there!
4. Friends. Well, in consideration, this might be the biggest obstacle… I freely admit, I will miss my friends. A lot. BUT, again, we hardly see each other… our friendships are maintained primarily over social media and phone calls. I can do that AND Skype from anywhere in the world. Will I miss their hugs? Of course… but for the 10-12 hugs I get a year from my friends I hardly see, I am sure we’ll be fine. No excuses there either!
5. Jobs. Yes. That is the one that is first and foremost in our concerns (these weren’t in order, btw… *grin*) Having a job is a big deal. And yes, I hear the economy is bad over the pond. Thing is? The economy is bad all around… salaries do appear lower, but then the exchange rate makes that gap a lot smaller than what it looks like on paper. It’s hard to say. All we know is that when we were there, no one we encountered was living destitute. Not a single one. That’s not to say that there aren’t those who are… just that those we knew holding down jobs, living life normally (not partying all the time or boozin’ up) were doing just fine. MANY things are FAR cheaper over there than here in Canada too… it really astonished us at the incredible finds we made while we were there. So.. back to jobs. Are there jobs? Yes, LOTS of them… but, like anywhere, those who don’t want to work, won’t. And complain that it’s the lack of jobs’ fault rather than their own.
There is one other thing in our lives that would pull at our hearts and that is our church family. A big part of our lives is our faith in God… and though we’ve heard from Christian friends that there are fewer and fewer Christians in the UK, most have said this after leaving the UK – and thereby reducing the believing population even more. So maybe it should be our biggest reason to go…
So there you have it… our excuses.
Now, we’ve prayed a LOT lately, and talked a LOT lately. And ultimately, we believe that we’re meant to move. So, we’ve decided that we are listing the house (we delayed for excuses, but also because the winter here was VERY harsh and the realtor suggested waiting till more pleasant “house shopping” weather had returned.) We will sell it, and my Hunny will travel to the UK while the Littles and I stay with friends in NB temporarily… I have great friends. We’ll store our stuff here in a friend’s storage. We will give it two months. IF in two months he hasn’t found even a bite on his resume (which is excellent), he will fly back straight out to Alberta where we know he will be certain to find work (though it’s not our first choice of place to live – too vast.) This way we haven’t uprooted the kids as much, and all that happened to them is an extended vacation with some fellow homeschool friends.
So, that is where we are now… the “ETA” to moving day has bumped forward again… but will it be east or west of here? That has yet to be determined. We’re praying for east though. All we know is that we don’t want to live with regrets or let excuses hold us back from following our dreams.