When you have a dream, do you listen to naysayers? What are naysayers? Are they truly “the voice of reason” or does naysaying stem from a certain insecurity or jealousy when faced with someone living their dreams? Why would that be?
I shared our dream the other day with an older man in our church. I explained how this wasn’t a “impulsive” idea, that we’d been thinking about it for a long time, and that it was a dream of both of ours for many, many years (long before we ever met even!) and his words were so lacking in encouragement and comfort. It near broke my heart.
He, of course, listed all the woes of the UK, Europe in general, and the foolishness of wanting to leave Canada (in that order, and don’t anyone remind me that the UK is NOT part of Europe, I know that… he apparently forgot.)… but then he started on some very strange things indeed.
For example… “they probably won’t hire you because of your accent” and “once you are there you will never be able to come back“. What? and WHAT? Now, let’s discard the latter first… of course we can come back. I am a Canadian citizen by birth – I have a stronger claim to come back than I have to move there in the first place. My Hunny is not only married to me, but he’s a citizen by his own rights. Odd, I tell ya.
The first one though stumped me. Not only do I hope and pray it is completely unfounded – as England is a multicultural country with many people speaking with varying accents from Canadian to Pakistani, but what a horrible seed of doubt to plant in someone’s head!!! I mean, really?? How useful is that a critique? I mean, it’s not like I can help the accent I have, unless I “fake” a British accent which would get me caught out so fast it’d make your head spin. And I think might be taken as me mocking their beautiful accent. So why say it?
Is it that people are jealous of seeing others reach for their dreams as they sit complacently in their own lives with no goals and ambitions? Or is it just boredom, keeping the status quo, ignorance? Does anyone making a decision of this magnitude do so hastily? I doubt it – the paperwork alone leaves a lot of time for reflection. Yesterday I was feeling a little sick from those anxiety butterflies, but then I was comforted again and again by little “God-incidences” that reassured me that this is the right path… so far as we’ve tread it anyhow.
I am blessed though. One of my bestest friends in the whole world is the complete opposite. She’s all about encouragement… from the first tears of realisation a year ago that it would mean we would very rarely see each other in person again in this lifetime to boosting my energy and motivation when I get stuck in my purging. Everyone should have a friend like mine. Thanks Jo!
I guess I’ll just take some good advice from Bing Crosby and The Andrews Sisters:
Have a POSITIVE day!